Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Tia's First Day at Daycare




Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010 - Day 74

Yesterday was a big day because it was Tia's first day at daycare. She did great. I was worried because I was afraid she wouldn't get the attention she does at home, but I am confident they were able to accommodate her enough so she never got really upset.

I fed Tia at 5:15am, let her play a bit while I ate breakfast, diaper change, changed her into her first day of school outfit (says Mommy & Daddy Love Me), then put her back to bed. I got ready and put her in her car seat and we headed out the door. She did well on the ride because normally she hates the ride and cries the entire time. I think it was because she was in the middle of a nap and was very tired. She was awake the entire way there and didn't cry at all, thankfully.

I dropped her off with her new teachers and instantly her lower lip protruded outward and she had that cute little pouty face and a couple tears started to fall. But she never screamed out and cried like I was afraid she'd do. I showed the teachers how to swaddle her and we put her in her crib. She just gazed out like I put her in jail and I hated to leave her, but I knew this would be a great thing for both of us.

Chris stopped by on his lunch hour to see how she was doing and she was just awaking from a nap. He looked down at her and she smiled real big back, it was super cute. I picked her up around 5:30ish and she was sort of tired, so I was hoping she'd sleep in the car. She was almost on the verge of a cry here and there, but I was able to soothe her by talking to her, holding her hand (which is very hard to do from the front seat), or putting her pacifier in her mouth (which is also very very hard to do). We made it home and both Chris and I started talking to her like she had just gotten back from her first day of Kindergarten or something. That is the 2nd picture because she was seriously talking up a storm just as if she was telling us about her day (it sounds like she is gargling or talking under water). I had been afraid her day would put her in a bad mood because it was a big change, but she was happy as could be. So let's pray all of her upcoming days will be the same or better!

Monday, March 1, 2010

Mommy & Daddy's Modeling Gig


Monday, March 1st, 2010 - Day 73

This picture was taken 6 weeks after Tia was born. I still have many pounds to lose, although this picture makes me look skinny - gotta love photographers. A friend of mine wanted some models for the Sevens Club Bar photo shoot in the Casino Queen. The photographer wanted to hire his own models because he knew he could get them cheaper than going through an agency. The photographer is close friends with some people I know and they thought of me first. When I was talking to the photographer, he asked if I was available for the shoot. I explained I was only a few weeks postpartum but I would definitely be up for modeling for him. I also 'pimped' out my friends too. I told him that if he wanted any other models to let me know. He took me up on it and said he needed 4 or 5 people. So I thought of all of my friends who are interested in modeling like Melissa and Beth, who I got Harley Davidson photo shoots last year with me and they were both interested. I, of course, got Chris signed up and recruited a few more people. It was really fun because doing a photo shoot with other girls/guys you know makes it more casual and fun. We all laughed and just had a great time. So here is one of the pictures that the photographer sent over. I love it. Sure makes me loo a lot skinnier than I am and Chris looks yummy, as always. I actually have a Harley Davidson photo shoot coming up on the 16th - not sure if I'm really ready for modeling, but they are like family and since I've been doing those shoots for almost 10 years, they always keep me on the list. I did promise I'd bring Tia with me to the shoot so they can all meet her. I wonder if I can get Tia into a future catalog once she can hold her head up and sit up on her own. That would be great for her baby book.

Sunday, February 28, 2010

I've Become a Morning Person

Sunday, February 28th, 2010 - Day 72

My entire life, I have never been much of a morning person. I loved to sleep in when I was younger and getting up for school was very hard for me. When I went away to college, I scheduled all of my classes for after 10am in the morning so I would get to sleep in as long as I could. Even then, there were days that I was late because I just didn't want to get up. I'm the typical snoozer. I set my alarm for an hour before, hit snooze every 15 minutes and when I finally get up, I pray the shower wakes me more. My college boyfriend and I used to go visit his parents and his mom seriously thought I had a sleeping disorder because I slept in until noon on Saturday and Sunday, lol When I moved in with Chris, I asked him if he liked to sleep in on the weekends and his answer was 'I don't want to waste the day and would rather get things done'...well, I was instantly scared that he'd ridicule me for wanting to sleep in all the time. To my pleasant surprise, that wasn't the case at all with Chris. He has yet to get up on his on free will and get things done on the weekends, he sleeps in as long, if not longer than I do. For me, I love that he is like me in that aspect. I have a really hard time sleeping and am very sensitive to noise. Chris, on the other hand, can sleep through everything. After I moved in, there were several occasions, I'd wake up and he'd be sprawled out across the bed, right in the center and I'd be buried underneath him. He didn't even know I was there. He, of course, has learned what 'his side' of the bed means and having a King bed has made it really clear! lol Since Chris can sleep through a freight train passing through, his alarm clock was the loudest, most annoying thing I had ever heard in my entire life. He had three set and they'd go off as loud as could be and he'd sleep right through. What was worse, was that the alarm was on the nightstand on MY side of the bed. I 'tried' to get used to it, since that is the way he woke himself up and I didn't want to mess with his routine. But, after a week of that, when his alarm would go off, my arm would instantly fly over and hit the snooze...almost before it even goes off. My reflexes became so quick that it was really pointless for him to even have an alarm because the only person it woke up was me. So our routine started to take shape where I would be his alarm clock. It was so funny too because I really realized how 'not a morning person' Chris was. The alarm would go off and I'd say 'honey, time to get up', he grumble '5 more minutes' and I'd say 'okay'...that went on for about 45 minutes. Then I'd say 'honey, really it is time for you to get up' and he'd say 'okay', but would just lay there as if he was paralyzed. One day, I think I forgot my patience and I turned perpendicular to Chris, put my feet on his side and started to push him, while warning him 'better get up or else'. On some occasions, he would go flying off the bed onto the floor. What is funny, is that he'd actually get back into bed and take his chances of it happening again. Then there were times where he'd get up and go turn on the shower. I'd roll over as if I was going back to bed and he'd run and jump into bed while I wasn't looking. We almost created an entire game out of our morning wake-ups. Sort of like cat and mouse and when it got really bad, I'd literally drag him to the shower. Talk about not being a morning person! But I'm okay with that because I completely understand. I then realized that it was better for me to get up and take a shower first and then crawl back in bed and snuggle with Chris a bit - we'd chat and it would slowly wake him up. I'd go get ready and give him warnings until he got up. We love our morning routine because it works for us. He would always say I was such a morning person and I would give him a look of disbelief. But he was right...I was bubbly, perky, awake, and playful in the morning. What!?! That's not me. But I think it is because I had to be a morning person to ensure he would get up. Since I replaced his alarm clocks, it was my duty to get his butt out of bed.

Now Tia needs me to be that morning person too. She has her first feeding at 5:15am every morning and so I typically get up at 5am, make her bottle, ease back into bed and patiently listen to her coos and cas until I know she's ready to get up OR if 5:15am arrives first. We have a great time in the morning. As I'm feeding her, I get my kisses in! I'll kiss her cheek, neck, hands and just love on her while she is busy gulping down her food. Then I'll give her some floor time and we'll play a bit. We have these long conversations and they are the cutest. I'll say something and she'll mumble something back. It almost sounds like she is trying to speak under water, but it really does seem like she is talking. It is fun. I'll rock her back to sleep and I'll watch her smile and giggle as she goes back to dreamland. Then right at 6:14am, I'll put her down and walk back to the bedroom just in time for the 6:15am alarm to go off for Chris and then that routine will begin. So I guess I've become a morning person not by choice, but by chance. The true test will be once I go back to work and trying to fit it all in the same way so I can feed Tia,get Chris up, get ready myself and get us out the door. I'm praying it is an easy transition since I've been up at 4am and 5am every morning for over 10 weeks. I will be sure to let you guys know! On the weekends, I do hope to get some chances to sleep in here and there...we'll see!

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Tia has a Flat Spot

Saturday, February 27th, 2010 - Day 71

Unfortunately, getting a flat head or flat spot is pretty common among babies. Ever since they released that stomach sleeping is riskier for SIDS and thus moms were having their babies sleep on their backs - flat heads have become a thing among newborns. Tia has started to develop a flat spot on the back of her head. It is on her left side because when she sleeps, she looks to the left. We've tried to give her more tummy time, put things on the right side so she looks that way and put her in her crib a bit tilted. I hope it goes away and doesn't get worse. I know it happens all the time to most babies, but don't you just hate it when things happen to your own kids.

Friday, February 26, 2010

Last Day with Mommy

Friday, February 26th, 2010 - Day 70

Today is the last day for Tia to be at home with mommy. Starting Monday, she will be in daycare and getting used to a new routine. I'm sad, of course, but I'm excited for that next stage where I go back to work, she gets used to daycare and our new routine and Chris and I will cherish all the evenings and early mornings with Tia. I pray that Tia makes the transition well. I know I'll be okay with her being at daycare because I know she is good hands. What I'm apprehensive about is Tia. Will she be overwhelmed at first with the adjustment? Will she cry more because she doesn't get that undivided attention? Will they pick her up when she starts to get that bad cry that breaks my heart? Will she be able to nap during the day? Will they be able to burp her enough so she doesn't spit up or get the hiccups? and so many more thoughts. I think that is why I'm partly excited because the sooner we get her going on a new routine, the sooner she'll adjust.

So today, I will be cherishing every moment. Holding her as much as I can and loving every minute. She has grown so much the past 10 weeks and I've been able to witness every moment of that. Now, I'll have to watch her grow when I see her outside of work/daycare. She's getting that fun personality that is easy to play, laugh and smile. She gets jealous when Daddy is playing with her and he stops to talk to mommy. Tia will scream at him in a way that is like 'hey, look at me daddy'. It is the cutest thing. We noticed it a few weeks ago, but thought we were just wishful thinking. However, it is pretty obvious that she wants daddy's attention when he gets home from work and he's making her smile and laugh. I love that she is daddy's little girl. I know Chris loves it too. There will always be an extra caress from mommy's care and attention. But little girls have a unique love for their daddies. So cheers to my last day with Tia today. She has my undivided attention for sure!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Addicted to the Baby Monitor

Thursday, February 25th, 2010 - Day 69

I don't know how they did it back in the day when there wasn't baby monitors to check in on your little ones. We got one for Tia (Thx Angela) and we use it daily and nightly. But I think I'm addicted to ours. At first, it was very hard for me because I'm a very light sleeper and it takes me forever to go to sleep. Having that baby monitor on the night stand next to my ear, I'd hear every peep Tia would make and I literally would not sleep a wink or I'd go running in her room to see if she was okay. Of course, it has been several weeks and I can tell the difference between when she is grunting trying to get comfortable to when she hmmm's and I know it is only a matter of time before she wakes up. I have spoiled her in that on her first cry, I'll go get her because I know she is ready to eat. I guess I don't have the heart to let her cry much, but I'm getting better at giving it a little more time before I come to her rescue. For weeks, I had the monitor on full blast. The volume goes up to 8. A couple weeks ago, I turned it down to 7 and then 6. I really don't need to hear every coo and cah she does but rather try to get a good sleep while I can. The monitor vibrates if she screams out in a cry and automatically makes the volume an 8 if she is that loud. It is just hard for me because I think I sort of like hearing her move around in there and know she is breathing. When she is down for a nap during the day, I have the monitor literally attached to me. My ears perk up at every peep she makes and then I analyze what the sound means. I even have the perfect spot I put the monitor when I try to squeeze in a shower. I have been trying to kick my addiction of the monitor by putting the volume lower to 4 or 5 and I know it will be good for the both of us if I do. Perhaps, once I'm back to work and I no longer can take any catnaps while she is napping during the day, I'll take advantage during the late night hours. Chris is very good about letting her cry a little and YES I know that crying is good for her from time to time. I guess because I'm home with her all day, every day, I just want her to be happy when I'm around. I know that at daycare she won't have the undivided attention that she has with me and therefore will have some spells of crying periods. Makes me sad to think about it, but I know it will be good to get used to not always having everyone's attention. So within the next weeks, I'm going to try to turn the volume a bit each more until it is on a level where I only hear when she cries. I will say that when I hear a certain higher pitched hmmm from her, I know she is up and her hmmms will get louder, deeper and soon will turn into a whine, then a cry. If I go into her room after the first few lower pitched hmmms, she'll be wide awake and when you peak into her crib, she'll have the biggest smile - it is super sweet.

I know they make the video monitors too and I can't imagine how I'd be with that. I have one friend who says she presses her face against the video monitor sometimes just to see if her baby's chest is rising, lol - I know I'd be the same way for the first weeks. I thought about investing in the video one, but we really don't need it. I think walking back and forth from my room to Tia's room about 3 or 4 times in the middle of the night does my body good. She loses her pacifier sometimes and I'll come to her rescue, luckily she'll go right back to sleep. She's been sleeping very well. 10.5 hours one night and between 7 and 9 on other days. Not bad for our 10 week old princess!

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Back to Bowling

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010 - Day 68

Last night was my first night back to bowling on my Divas on Tap league. It was great to be back and see everyone. I didn't do that great but I know I'll improve the next few weeks. I'll have to since I have a tournament at the end of the month. I did go practice last Saturday and did very well with 181, 179, 157 and 207, so I know I have it in me to do well...I just have to get into the groove again. Since Tia had he immunizations and was a bit cranky, I think I had that on my mind among a few other things. I'm glad to be back though. My mom has decided that she is moving to Thailand sooner than planned. Her and her husband were going to wait until he reached 67 years old, but due to the economy...jobs are few and far between in his industry. So he may retire early. If this proves to be the case, then he'll retire early and they will work on selling their house. Once that sells, they'll move to Thailand. In preparation for that, my mom wants to quit the league to dedicate her time in preparing for the move. So Lisa, Cherri and I were left with a decision to retire the team for good or bring on some new people. We decided that if we found a few people to join our team where we could rotate from week to week - then we'd keep the team. If we weren't able to find any people, then we'd end our team for the meantime. Luckily for us, we recruited three more players including the girl who subbed for me while I was on maternity leave. So we are set for another year on the bowling league. We even came up with a theme for our new team!

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

2 Month Doc Appointment

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010 - Day 67

We went to the doc today and I have good news and bad news. The good news is that she is doing great. She weighs 10 lbs 4 ozs and is 22.5 inches long. Doc said that her eating, sleeping, and motor skills rank up to the 4 month levels so she is doing beyond what is expected. The bad news is that she had to get her immunizations today and boy was it painful for me (and her). She screamed bloody murder and it just pained me to see her in so much pain. It was the hardest I had ever seen him cry. She received: Diphtheria Tetanus, Polio, Haemophilus Influenzae, Hepatitis B, Pneumoccoccal Conjugate, and Rotavirus vaccines and shots. Wow! But at least we got it out of the way. I just felt so bad for her and once I got her calm again, she was all good. Once I got her home and fed her, she was all smiles. She's healthy and I'm happy she is doing well!

Monday, February 22, 2010

Sleeping Through the Night

Monday, February 22nd, 2010 - Day 66

For weeks, we've fed Tia her last bottle at 11pm and her first one at 5:15am. She was getting a good 6 hours of sleep in. Every now and then she'd either lose her pacifier or wake up earlier, but it was pretty easy to get her to go back to bed quickly. We decided to try and see how long she could sleep so the past few nights, we've been putting her to bed around 10pm. She slept well until it was about 5:15am. Last night, we put her to bed at 9:30pm and I let her sleep as long as she wanted this morning and she didn't get up until 7:30am. That means she slept about 10 hours. She did wake up twice because she lost her pacifier but that was a great run! So at least we know she is capable of sleeping for 8 to 10 hours through the night. So now I have to decide what time she should get up in the morning for her first bottle. I have to be at work by 8am and with an hour drive to Chesterfield, I need to think about what time I need to leave to get her to daycare in time and then me to work. The daycare is in Ballwin, about 5 or 10 minutes from 141 which is the route I take. I used to leave at 7am and would get to work just before 8am. So I'll probably have to leave about 6:30am to get her to daycare and me to work by 8am. Which means, I'll probably have to get up about 5:15am to shower and get ready and then get her up for her bottle around 5:45am which should give me enough time to burp her, change her and get her dressed and ready to go. I should be pretty used to getting up early since that is the way it has been since she was born, BUT working a full day in addition will be another thing. So we are pleased to know she is sleeping pretty well. We do swaddle her tightly and give her the soothie pacifier too. So we are going to stick to giving her the last bottle at 9pm and off to dreamland it is. As she gets used to that, we'll start getting that down to 8pm.

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Baby Crack

Sunday, February 21st, 2010 - Day 65

When someone told me about 'Baby Crack', I just had to laugh. A friend told me that I had to possess a product called Gripe Water because it is the best thing when your baby is crying hysterically and you don't know what to do to calm her down. She said that just a tad of Gripe Water and your baby will instantly stop crying, hence why it is called 'Baby Crack'.

Of course with our showers, we received a couple bottles of Baby Crack/Gripe Water. Luckily for us, we have only used it a handful of times, but let me tell you that it works like a charm. Imagine yourself tasting the most delicious dessert that you've ever had in your life - picture that face and the movements you would make with your mouth as you are mmmming the yummy taste...that is the face Tia gets when we give her Gripe Water. She smacks her lips like she's saying yummy and her eyes get big like she's thinking 'more please'. The first time we used it was when she was about a month old and in the evening one night we had no idea what was wrong with her. She was crying hysterically like we had cut her arm off or something. We tried to soothe her by rocking her, patting her, holding her, putting her in her swing...everything and nothing was working. I asked Chris if we should pull out the Gripe Water. It was as if we were talking about our cherished vintage bottle of Dom Perignon or something that we'd pull out only for the most special occasion. When he gave me that look that he was at his wits end, I decided it was time for the Gripe Water to be introduced to Tia. We didn't give her the proposed large dose, but just a tiny bit and let's just say that she instantly stopped crying and was calm again. We couldn't believe it. Later we figured out that she was overtired. We thought the more she was up during the day, the more she'd sleep at night. Of course, we've realized the opposite is true and if Tia doesn't get at least one or two good naps throughout the day, she gets cranky at night. Tia is a great baby, but on those rare occasions, we'll pull out a small dose of Baby Crack.

Saturday, February 20, 2010

How I Came Up with the Name Tia


Saturday, February 20th, 2010 - Day 64

I explained how we came up with McKenzie in an earlier post, but I never said how I came up with the name Tia. I don't even know if Chris really knows why I've always loved that name either.

My entire life, I've always had people say I look like someone. In recent times, I got Jill Hennessey from the show Crossing Jordon. For about 5 years after college, I got Catherine Zeta-Jones. I even had one girl think I was really her and when I kept telling her my name was Angie, she'd wink and say 'your secret is safe with me'. All through college, people called me Pocahontas. Never would think I'd become an animated character, but that was my name and I think the entire EIU campus called me that even those who didn't know me. I do have to admit that all of the people that I look like are very good looking women, so I definitely took it all as a compliment. When I was in high school, everyone called me Tia Carrere from Wayne's World. I loved when people called me that because I always admired her. She is Cantonese, but I grew up in a very small town and even though I was only half Asian - we were one of two Asian families. I didn't really know that many fellow Asians. Wayne's World was huge at that time, so seeing a famous Asian women like Tia Carrere, I instantly loved that name.

But for about 10 years, the name I had always wanted to name my first baby girl was Riley. I had a friend in college named Julie Riley and from then on, I decided that I would name my first born girl Riley. I remember in the year 2000, my friend Bonnie needed a name and when I told her Riley was my favorite name, she named her dog Riley. That didn't deter me though, I took it as a compliment. For years, that was the name. I remember about 5 years ago, I heard a mother say her baby's name was Riley and my ears perked up. I couldn't believe someone had stolen my name. Then after that, I started hearing people naming their babies Riley all over and the last few years, I decided I needed a new name. It was right when I met Chris that I decided on the name Tia. On our first date, I asked Chris if he wanted kids and he said 'as many as I can spoil'. I had been on many first dates and had asked the same question and the answer was usually 'someday' or 'maybe' or 'I think so'...but I knew they really didn't want kids when all of these guys were in their 30's. My last serious relationship ended for many reasons, one of which was that he didn't want any children. I have always wanted to have kids and nothing was going to stand in my way. When Chris answered that infamous question, he not only made my day, but once we started dating - I couldn't help but start thinking about names for our 'possible future' children. Tia was the name that popped in my head and it stuck!

So if you want to say I named her after Tia Carrere, you can. She's a beautiful successful woman and I'd only hope for the same for my little Tia. Tia means Princess in Greek and I loved that meaning.

Friday, February 19, 2010

Trigger Thumb

Friday, February 19th, 2010 - Day 63

First off, why hasn't anyone told me I've been writing 2009 on all of my post this year, lol. I went though and changed all of them! It is always hard to get used to the new dates each year.

Went to the doctor today regarding my thumb. A couple months before I had Tia, my hands swelled really bad while I slept. It was to the point where I couldn't even sleep and if I did, I would wake up to feel like my hands were brittle and if I moved them, they'd break off. One night, I pulled the cover over me with my left hand. You'd think that would be easy to do, but with my brittle feeling hands, my thumb moved out of place. It was a weird feeling because I knew it wasn't broken, but I knew there was something up with it. My doctor said it is normal to have that feeling when you are in late pregnancy and to just watch it as much as I could. Once Tia was born, the swelling disappeared, but what started happening immediately that first week was I'd wake up in the middle of the night and my left thumb would be bent. Bent in the way that hurt and I couldn't get it out of that position easily. I had to massage it and even then it was numb and hurt really bad. So far two months I've been taping my thumb so it wouldn't bend while I slept. I also taped it during the day as well because when I'd pick up Tia, it would hurt as well. My OB referred me to a hand doctor and today I finally saw him. Yep, I have trigger finger. Trigger Finger is an inflammation of tissue inside my thumb. Tendons, cordlike fibers that attach muscle to bone and allow you to bend the joints, become swollen, as well as the membrane that allows the tendons to move easily. This makes it difficult to straighten the finger or thumb. Let's just say it sucks! So the doctor gave me a shot today of an anti-inflammatory medication, cortisone. It definitely hurt but I know it should do the trick...I hope. He said that if it doesn't, then we'll have to do surgery. I've never had surgery before and would prefer not to (besides Lasik).

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Pretty Good Schedule

Thursday, February 18th, 2010 - Day 62

I try to stick to somewhat of a schedule, but I allow our day to be flexible at the same time. I try to feed Tia every three hours, but if it runs late or early and she seems hungry then I'll feed her. Typically the day starts at 5am. I'll get up and make her bottle and about that time she'll be 'stirring' as I call it, which means she's making noises and I know she'll be up any moment. Since I've been getting her up around 5am to 6am for weeks now, she seems to stick to around those times. I've planned this because it will be what time I'll be getting her up once I start back to work. Once I feed her, I'll burp and change her and give her a few minutes of floor time to stretch a bit. Then I'll swaddle her and put her back to bed. Two out of three times, she'll go back down to sleep, but now and again she'll be wide awake. If she's awake, I'll bring her into bed with us and let her play a bit. I'll feed her again around 8, burp her and give her about a half hour of floor time, change her diaper and into the swing she goes. Around 11ish, I'll feed her again, burp her, give her floor time and then swaddle and put her down for her afternoon nap. She will sleep anywhere from an hour to 3 hours at which time I'll feed her once she wakes, given it has been at least 2.5 hours. After that feeding, she'll get floor time and go in her swing. Then daddy will get home and he'll play with her until she has her next two feedings before bed time. That is pretty much our day in a nutshell. Floor time is what I call it when I put her on two folded blankets on the floor. It is amazing, but she loves it. She'll stretch, talk, laugh, look around, roll from side to side and of course we have mommy time. I'll sing, talk, smile and make her laugh - we have fun during floor time. I clap her hands together and we do exercises, etc. So that has become our schedule and it works out pretty well because during her times she's napping or in her swing, I can jump online, do household chores or get some other things done. We only have one more week of this before she starts daycare, so I better take advantage while I can. I love rocking her to sleep and watching her smile as she drifts off. I love running into her room and peaking into the crib to see how she is. I can always get her to smile and I love it when her eyes light up at the sound of my voice. There are so many things I'm going to miss when maternity leave is over. But Tia and I have had a blast being at home together!!

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Maternity Leave is Almost Over

Wednesday, February 17th, 2010 - Day 61

After this week, I have one full week left with Tia at home. The week after that, Tia will start daycare. I decided that the week before I go back to work, I should wean myself from Tia by having her go to daycare and I can get some Angie time. I have scheduled a week full of lunches, appointments and to-dos. I'm excited because one day I'm getting pedicures with some family members, I'm finally meeting with my stock broker, Chris and I have a meeting at our bank, I have lunch plans with a few people, getting my hair cut and a few other things. See, I figure since I won't be at work, I will be able to check in with Tia anytime I choose. I am pretty sure I'm going to be okay with Tia going to daycare and not being home with me, but I figure if for some reason I'm not doing well without my little girl, I can go pick her up anytime I want. Hopefully, if I'm having a hard time at the beginning of the week, then by Friday, I should have all of my anxieties out of my system. Plus, I get to have some time to myself, as well as getting some much needed tasks done. Then the following week, when I go back to work - I'll be able to dedicate the majority of my thoughts on work. The other thing is timing getting her to daycare and to work on time. My trek from Arnold to Chesterfield is usually an 50 minutes in the morning and an hour in the evening. Now I'll be dropping off and picking up Tia from daycare which is located in Ballwin. I'm hoping it doesn't take me much more time than it does now to get to work. The Goddard school is amazing and I know she will be in good hands there. So I'm enjoying the two and a half weeks left of maternity leave with Tia the next week and a half and then the following week with Tia at daycare and me having some Angie time.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

My Little Ballerina


Tuesday, February 16th, 2010 - Day 60

My friend Melissa was shopping for her little girl Brooklyn, she was kind enough to get Tia some cute socks (which are my favorite because they stay on Tia's feet) and this cute little ballerina outfit. I could not help myself but to dress her up. I even had these cute stockings that have little print ballet shoes on the footies. She is just so cute and I love playing dress up with her. I just wish I had a better camera to take better pictures.

Monday, February 15, 2010

Cradle Cap

Monday, February 15th, 2010 - Day 59

Tia has a mild case of Cradle Cap. We didn't know what it was at first and I just thought she had some dry skin due to the winter air. But looking closer at her scalp in the back, you can see her entire head has dry, scaly patches. We looked it up online and yet again, another thing that is common among babies. Cradle cap is the common name for condition newborns or young babies develop, which causes redness and scaly patches on the scalp. The baby gets a sort of infant dandruff, which is caused by overactive oil glands on the scalp and face, and the condition sometimes also affects necks, ears and even armpits. But don't worry: it isn't serious, it is a normal condition and it will go away in time.

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Tia is Ready for Summer


Sunday, February 14th, 2010 - Day 58

Tia's first unofficial first swim was last summer at Lisa's new pool, but now she is ready to go once Lisa's pool opens this summer. Isn't it cute! It is a 6 month which will be perfect for Tia once May/June hits. I got the cute sunglasses for her too. They have a strap, so they'll stay on her head. I can't wait to see her in this outfit.

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Wow! Look at my Hand!


Saturday, February 13th, 2010 - Day 57

Isn't she so cute, she's discovered her hand. She figured out that these things that go flailing around all the time that she uses to rub her eyes when she is tired, to scratch her face when she's mad, and hold on to our shoulders when we are burping her, can be controlled by her. The other day, I caught her analyzing her hand very intently. She would pull it really close to her face, then back away. She spent over 50% of her floortime just looking in amazement at her new discovery. She would even be crossed eyed just to get the best look she could. She always had her hand all balled up in a fist, but it was the cutest thing to see that she has figured out there is a purpose to these things.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Thai Baby Customs

Friday, February 12th, 2010 - Day 56

So my mom was born and raised in Thailand and came over to the US when she was 21 years old. Before coming to the US, she has 3 daughters and 1 son already. Once she was here, she then had my brother, myself and my little sister. Yep, 7 kids in all and the age span is about 26 years from oldest to youngest (I'm the 6th youngest and Sam is 15 years younger than me). So let's say my mom has had her share of making babies and raising them as newborns.

Of course the traditions and customs are quite different from those that we have today. Co-sleeping was the way it was here in the US up until they decided that SIDS was less risky having babies sleeping on their backs, so some traditions are what they did back in the day and when I was born. However, there are some customs that are very different than what we do over here. My mom seems to fill me in on a few things here and there on how she'd handle situations, since that is the way they did it in Thailand. For instance, what they do when you have engorged breasts and they need to get the milk out quickly. I won't explain what they do because it is VERY unique but let's just say my eyeballs popped out when she was explaining it. Another thing she said they do to get the milk stain off of a baby's tongue is to dip your finger in the babies wet diaper and rub it on the baby's tongue. Now, this also made my eyes pop out a bit because I couldn't imagine my doctor telling me to do this. Now, my mom did say that it was mainly because they didn't have money for medicines and these are traditions they were raised with. She has told me many other things that amaze me and often I think silently to myself that I hope she doesn't try these things when I'm not looking, lol. But I do find hearing some of the things very entertaining to say the least. You can look up some of the traditions that they do like newborn hair shaving which is also common in China. You ever wonder why some Asian babies hair sticks straight out like they were electrocuted? It isn't because of the texture of their hair, it is because many Asian cultures shave their babies heads when they are about a month old.

It is quite fascinating to hear stories of other cultures and how different they are from what our Pediatricians and doctors recommend. For example, my sister-n-law is from the Philippines and she was telling me how they just let their babies go diaperless and when the baby poops or pees on the floor, they just clean it up. She said they save a lot of money on diapers...we'll I guess so. But all very interesting to hear!

Thursday, February 11, 2010

Am I all Dried Up?

Thursday, February 11th, 2010 - Day 55

Well, let's just say that my milk makers aren't making as much milk as they were when Tia was born. It is my fault because I stopped pumping around the clock about about a month because I was needing my sleep through the night and so instead of staying up after feeding Tia and pumping, I'd hit the hay and get as many zzzz's as I could. So I stopped pumping at 11pm, 2am, and 5am. So I was basically just pumping at 7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm and 7pm. But the past few weeks, I've become lazy and I think it is because I know we have formula that we've been giving her 50% of the time. I was still pumping enough at the 7am, 10am and 1pm for enough bottles to supplement for 50% of the time, so I started dropping the 4pm and 7pm because Chris would get home and we'd have family time with Tia and it was the last thing on my mind with cooking dinner and getting ready for my early bed time. But then I got sick this past week and the last thing I wanted to think about was pumping, so we just used what I had stocked up in the fridge to supplement her about 30% of the time. However, when I started feeling better the past couple days and I went to pump, it was virtually a half ounce each - that's it. That wasn't going to do it. With only a two and half weeks before Tia starts daycare, I'm not hugely concerned since we were going to go to all formula at that time anyways. We have some milk stored in our freezer we'll crack out to get us to that point and I'll still try to get the milk makers working again, but at this point I think I'm all dried up. I was really enjoying my bigger boobs too...I guess I get to watch them shrink back to their normal small size again ;) I know many women pump up until 6 months, but I really don't know how they do it. I have had several people tell me to consider pumping while I'm at work, but with my job, I just don't see me being dedicated to slipping away to a conference room and knowing that every person knows that I'm pumping my milk makers in there because it is tight quarters where we work. I do know others have done it, but I'm not big on taking breaks at work anyways so I'd rather not even try. I even had one girl tell me she does it while she is driving - now that is dedication. What I've learned about pumping is that you have to be very diligent about it meaning you have to pump round the clock and if you don't, you start drying up, quick. At my 6 week OB check-up, my doctor said it best when he said 'let's put it this way, I was not a breast fed baby and I think I turned out pretty normal...I think' and he's right. I tried my best to breast feed Tia for as long as I could and if I can get her through the rest of maternity leave, I'll be happy.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Our Little Poop Machine


Wednesday, February 10th, 2010 - Day 54

Tia definitely does a great job at pooping and for the past weeks, it has been a mustard yellow color. BUT lately, it can have a green tint to it. We have different levels of poop too. We have a 'poopie diaper' which means it was normal as far as the load goes. Then we have 'airbrush' as I call it, or 'a light dusting' as Chris calls it which means she had one or two small poofs of poopie, but it wasn't quite the real thing. Then we have 'an explosion' which means it did not stay in her diaper and has either shown up on her PJ's, the front of her diaper on her belly, the back of her diaper up her back, and sometimes on us. There has been a few times where I don't know what happened. For instance, I was feeding her the other day and I knew she was working on some business which is always good. I was burping her when I smelled something pretty horrible and I looked over and on the burp rag lying between her and me was some pretty big clumps of poopie. I pulled her away and it was all over her PJ's, on her big and somehow on her hand mitts and we won't talk about the rest. It always makes us laugh! I am always happy when she poops because it means she is eating well and growing. Lately, her poopie has been extra stinky. So stinky that last night Chris was having some dry heaves over the smell. I have been sick, so my nose hasn't been picking up much smells lately, so I changed her.

She's definitely growing. We measured her the other day and she was 23.5 inches long. She is growing out of her mini-crib which means she'll graduate to her crib without having the minicrib inside it. Wow, it is amazing how fast she is growing and only 8 weeks old. She has been eating more and I can tell she is heavier too. We go to the doctor in a couple weeks and we will see how big she is according to the doctor.

The attached is a picture of the Poop Chart that was included on the 'Daddy's Diaper Service' apron that Lisa made Chris. I love how it tells you what each color of poop means and what to expect. Although, some of them are more humorous, I can tell you that some of them are right on the mark!

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Becoming Mobile

Tuesday, February 9th, 2010 - Day 53

Tia is definitely starting to be in tune with her limbs and body. She pretty much can hold her head up. When you burp her over your shoulder, she'll sit really tall and look around. She can roll on her side and back again. She also lifts her legs way up in the air now and she is starting to figure out she can do things with her hands. I read that if you encourage babies to do things like clap their hands, they will learn it faster. So whenever we can, we will clap our hands and say great job Tia. She will stop and stare at my hands like she is really wondering what I'm doing. It is really cute. She is just getting so big and at almost 8 weeks, she is still my little overachiever! I can't wait to watch her grow and start to do even more amazing things. Before we know it, she'll be mobile!

Monday, February 8, 2010

Mommy's Sick

Monday, February 8th, 2010 - Day 52

I've had a great run with no colds or sickness in almost 2 years, so I really can't complain that much. I started feeling a sore throat coming on Friday and by Sunday it was full swing. I had to miss out on Superbowl, but was happy that Tia and Chris went over to Lisa's as planned. It gave me a chance to get to bed extra early and try to rid this sore throat. I took an entire bottle of Tylenol Cold & Flu through out the day and woke up this morning really groggy and tired, but the throat seemed a bit better. It still hurts when I swallow but my energy seemed better. I took advantage of every minute when I could sleep while she was either in her swing or napping. Just trying to get my energy back through resting would be an ultimate help. I'm going to bed early tonight too. I hope to kick this on my own, but will go to the doctor mid-week if I don't feel better. I just am praying that Tia doesn't catch any sickness from me, that would just make me feel terrible. But I just made sure I washed my hands every chance I could and I didn't speak to her much closely. I would hate if I gave her the first cold.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Tia's First Superbowl


Sunday, February 7th, 2010 - Day 51

Doesn't Tia looks so cute in her Rams cheerleading outfit. A friend of mine gave me a ton of her daughter's hand me downs and this was one of the outfits. She got to experience her first superbowl with Daddy over at Lisa's house.

Saturday, February 6, 2010

Do I Look Like My Daddy?


Saturday, February 6th, 2010 - Day 50

I'm not sure how old Chris is in this picture, but doesn't Tia resemble him. I know she has some of my traits too and I'm trying to track down my baby picture, but look at this picture of Chris and the picture of Tia in the Bumbo just below. The space between her nose and lip when she smiles is the same as Chris's, her eyes, hairline, lips when she smiles and partially her nose. I do think her nose looks like mine sometimes and sometimes like Chris's. I think it is just a mixture of both our noses. She does have a square head like I do and of course we all know her fingers and hands are like mine. It will be fun to see how much she changes over time. I know she'll look like me sometimes and then like Chris. I'm sure her hair will be nice and dark like both of ours. Her eyes seem to be getting darker and Chris noticed a brown spot on her right eye - hmmm so hard to know what color they will end up being. I think they will be green with a gold lining OR hazel. She's our little master piece and we love her so much. I just love that she is a mixture of the both of us!

Friday, February 5, 2010

I'm a Big Girl


Friday, February 5th, 2010 - Day 49

A friend gave me this Bumbo and it has been sitting in Tia's closet. Tia has been trying to hold her head up since the day she was born. Her neck seems to be getting stronger and stronger every day. I got the Bumbo out to see how she fit in it and to my surprise, she fit pretty well. I have to tilt it back a bit just to keep her head back, but it is supported by the back of the Bumbo. I don't think she really knows what it is all about yet, but I'm hoping we can integrate it into her daily activities. It comes with a tray and I'm hoping I can put a few things on it that she can play with. I might try feeding her in it too since we try to keep her more upright when she eats to avoid reflux. Isn't she cute though!

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Secret for Hiccups

Thursday, February 4th, 2009 - Day 48

When I was pregnant, Tia would get the hiccups 5 or 6 times a day. At first I thought it was so cute, but then a few weeks into it, I was a bit annoyed, and then a few weeks later I was so used to it that I loved it. They said that the chances of her having them often once she was born was pretty high since she had them during pregnancy and they were right. She gets them 2 to 3 times per day. Some days she doesn't have them at all and some days she has them several times. I know it is a mixture of things whether she's been burped, if she still has some air caught along with some other factors. So she is almost 7 weeks old and I just figured out the secret to hiccups. I had read or heard somewhere that if you try feeding them again, they will get rid of the hiccups. Yesterday, Tia had the hiccups and I noticed there was a few sips left in her bottle. I gave her the rest of the bottle and bam, the hiccups were gone. Later in the day, she got them again and I went in and made an extra ounce of milk and fed her and bam, the hiccups were gone. I was so excited.

As the day gets later, Tia gets a little fussier at times and sometimes when she gets the hiccups she gets super mad. In the late afternoon, she got the hiccups again and I tried to refeed her and she was not having any of that. She was so mad from having the hiccups that she wouldn't take the bottle. I kept trying to force it, but she just would wail out in anger. Finally, I said 'fine, you have the hiccups' and let her be. Around 5pm yesterday, she got the hiccups again and again she did not want the bottle, she just kept getting mad if I tried to give it to her, but I was patient and finally a few minutes later, she took about 5 sips and bam, the hiccups were gone. Usually, she'll have the hiccups for at least 15 minutes and sometimes an hour. They shake her whole body and she hates them. She'll go to wail out in anger and is stop short by an hiccup, which in turn makes her even more mad. Some times, she just deals with them and acts like she doesn't have them and continues to play. So we are excited we have a bit of a cure for hiccups. We would always tell her that we wish we could do something about them and now we can! Woo hoo

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Postpartum Exercises for Separated Stomach Muscles

Wednesday, February 3rd, 2009 - Day 47

Before anyone is ready to start working out again, here is what you need to know about why it is imperative not to begin too quickly. A separation of the rectus abdominus muscles during pregnancy is normal. It allows the belly to expand and make room for the growing baby. This separation, called diastasis recti, isn't a tear or a hernia. It’s simply a thinning and widening of the connective tissue between the two muscles. You can measure by lying on your back and doing a crunch, just above your belly button, you can feel the separation - if you can fit one finger in the separation, you are okay to proceed with working out. But if two or more fingers fit into the separation, more time is needed to get this separation back to normal. If you don't wait, you will have a permanent layer of skin that never reattaches to the muscle.

After pregnancy, there are exercises that can help bring the muscles back together.
The postpartum abdominal exercises I'm recommending take you through five levels. Traditional abdominal exercises, such as sit-ups, put too much stress on a postpartum tummy and back, and are not recommended for new moms. These exercises are designed to target the area most weakened by pregnancy—below the belly button— without creating stress on the back and abdomen. They're amazingly effective, but it's important for you to go slowly and master each level before moving on to the next one.

A C-section mom can start these exercises once the incision has healed (stitches are dissolved or taken out) and you don’t feel pain when contracting your tummy. If you had a vaginal birth you can get started once any incisions or tears are healed.

The first exercise to try is simply pulling your belly button in towards your back. Hold for five seconds and release. Keep breathing as you hold and try and work up to 5-10 of these contractions several times a day.

Basic breath: Lie on your back with your arms at your sides, knees bent, feet resting on the floor. Inhale and exhale a few times. Don't flatten your back or tilt your pelvis, just let the natural curve in your back remain. Breathe in slowly and deeply. Now, breathe out and tighten your tummy muscles, pulling your navel towards your spine.

Remember to concentrate on contracting the muscles below your belly button without flattening your back. When you are able to contract and relax your abdominal muscles without moving your back, you have learned to properly isolate the correct muscles. You can then try the first exercise.

Exercise #1
Lie on the floor with knees bent and arms at your side. Hold your tummy in by doing your basic breath contraction. Keeping one knee bent, slowly slide the opposite leg out until it is straight with the floor, and then slide it back up to bent knee position. Relax your tummy.

Repeat with the other leg. Remember not to flatten your back and to keep the curve of your spine relaxed. When your abdominal muscles are contracted it helps to stabilize your pelvis while your legs and lower tummy muscles work. This prevents strain in your back muscles, and trains your abdominal muscles to protect and support your spine. When you can comfortably do 20 legs slides on each side you are ready to move on to exercise #2.

Exercise #2
Lie on floor with knees bent and arms at your side. Pull in on your tummy and hold, then raise one knee towards your chest and slowly straighten it out parallel to the floor—about 2-3 inches above the floor without touching it. Return extended leg to starting position, knees bent, feet resting on floor, tummy relaxed.

Repeat on opposite side, keeping one knee bent as you extend the other leg. Work up to five repetitions on each side without stopping, building to 20 repetitions or more on each side before moving on to exercise #3.

Exercise #3
Use you basic breath as you bring your legs up one at a time towards your body with knees bent. Keep one leg bent as you slowly lower the other leg down to the floor and back up. Repeat on the opposite side, working up to ten times each leg before moving on.

Exercise #4
Use your basic breath as you bring both legs up, knees bent. Slowly extend one leg out, parallel with the floor but not touching it. Return the leg to the starting position and repeat with opposite leg. Work up to 10 repetitions each leg.

With each repetition remember to keep breathing, contract your tummy as you move, and don't let you back pop up. If the arch in your back keeps popping up during the exercise, then you're not strong enough to progress to this level, and need to go back to the previous exercise until you build greater strength.

When you can repeat this exercise 20 times on each leg without discomfort or arching your back, move on to exercise #5.

Exercise #5
Bring both legs to your chest using your basic breath one at a time. Straighten both legs up in the air, at a 90-degree angle from your hips. Keeping your legs together, slowly lower them down toward the floor. Only lower your legs as far as you feel comfortable doing so.

If you feel your back beginning to arch, bring your legs back up and lower legs again only as far as you can without arching the back. Work up to 20 repetitions.
If you notice back pain with this exercise, discontinue doing #5 and maintain at level #4.

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Mommy & Daddy Doing Some Modeling


Tuesday, February 2nd, 2009 - Day 46

Chris and I did a photo shoot today for the Casino Queen's new bar called Sevens. A friend of mine asked me if I was available and even though I'm not back to my ideal weight yet, I figured it would be a fun photo shoot to do anyways. When the photographer and I talked, he wanted me to recruit some more people for the photo shoot, so I thought of all of my friends who have done modeling or have an interest. So the 6 of us, including Chris, all went down to the Casino Queen today and did the photo shoot. Chris's Aunt Jenny watched Tia for us and she sent me this picture during the shoot. It was so sweet to see her smiling face while we were away from her. So if you see any future ads for the new bar Sevens, look for me, Chris, Melissa Stolze, Beth Hansen, Brian Jacobson, Suzanne Buethe or Mary Sauer. At least one of us were in each of the shots whether it is a billboard, an in Casino ad, magazine, flyer, etc.

Monday, February 1, 2010

Postpartum Appointment


Monday, February 1st, 2009 - Day 45

I used the stroller for the first time today. I had my Postpartum appointment with my OBG and was wondering if I should drop Tia off or I should bring her. I know the nurses wanted to see her, so I decided to bring her with me and was praying she wouldn't be fussy. She hates the car ride lately and as soon as we stop and she realizes she is in her car seat, she fusses big time. But today, she slept right through it all. I was happy she fell asleep about 10 minutes into the car ride and the stroller kept her moving which was perfect. The nurses were all oohing and awing over her and loved her many faces she makes while she is sleeping. Doc loved her too.

Maneuvering the stroller was all new to me - I ran into some walls here and there. It was comical. My doctor's appointment went very well and I checked out with all positives. I told my doctor about my thumb problem and he said I have a condition called 'trigger thumb' where your thumb gets locked in a bent position and you can't straighten it very easily. I've had this every since I gave birth, but it started with my hands swelling during late pregnancy. My doctor set up an appointment with a hand doctor who specializes in carpel tunnel. Hopefully, it won't mean I need surgery!

Sunday, January 31, 2010

Dress-up w/Mommy


Sunday, January 31st, 2009 - Day 44

I have soooo many outfits I can't wait to put Tia in, but I have been good and haven't played much dress up with Tia unless we are going out and she needs a cute outfit. But today, I decided to put her in a couple cute pink outfits she has and take some photos. I didn't go overboard by any means, but isn't she cute!

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Schnucks Loves New and Expectant Mommies

Saturday, January 30th, 2009 - Day 43

I have to give a lot of kudos to Schnucks Grocery Stores. They know how to treat new and expectant mothers well. I decided to go to store the other day with Tia and as I was driving down the aisles in the parking lot, I noticed a big sign that said 'Parking for New & Expectant Mothers' - boy was I excited. During my pregnancy, I only noticed Parking spots for Expectant Mothers, so I was pleasantly surprised to see a parking spot for me! Woo Hoo

Another thing that makes them great - they are providing free prenatal vitamins. I'm excited because I got enough free samples from my doctor to last my entire pregnancy, but now I want some to keep taking. Since we'll be most likely trying to have baby #2 this fall, I want to keep my body ready for when that happens.

Beginning Jan. 18, all 103 Schnucks Pharmacies will offer 13 of the most often prescribed vitamins absolutely free. Folic acid is the most important vitamin women can take to help prevent serious birth defects of the brain and spine, and it’s most important that they start taking it before they get pregnant and continue to take it after. Another key ingredient in prenatal vitamins - it helps build both mother and baby’s muscles while preventing anemia and lowering the risk of preterm birth and low birthrate. Customers must present a valid prescription for selected prenatal vitamins. The targeted prenatal vitamins are free regardless of insurance provider; however, the list of covered drugs is subject to change based on availability. These will be limited to a 30-day supply per visit but all refills are free as well. FREE Prenatal Vitamin Prescription Program includes the following vitamins: Prenavite Tablet, Cintranatal RX Tablet, Prenatal Tablet, Prenatal Plus Iron Tablet, Prenatal Plus Tablet, Prenatabs FA Tablet, Prenatabs RX Tablet, Prenatal-U Capsule, Trinatal RX 1 Tablet, Stuart Prenatal Tablet, Prenatal 19 Tablet, Prenatal 19 Chewable Tablet, Duet DHA Stuart Natal Vitamins.

Friday, January 29, 2010

How to Know When It's Okay to Start Exercising

Friday, January 29th, 2009 - Day 42

Some have asked me how do I know I am able to start exercising. Of course, your doctor would be the #1 choice, but since I don't see mine until next week, I wanted to find out for myself. Most people are ready to exercise somewhere between 4 and 8 weeks depending on your body before pregnancy, during and what kind of labor you had. Lie on your back with your head on the floor or bed. Place your hands behind your neck and slowly lift your head toward the ceiling. Holding that position, place a finger just above the belly button and press down gently. You will feel a gap in between the muscles; now see how many fingers (if any) you can get into the space between the abdominal muscles. This is your gap - if it is one finger then you may do all the exercises - if it is two or more you need to be really careful. With a two or more finger gap you can try the exercise above while holding on to your abdomen with your hands. Place your right hand on the left side of your tummy area and your left hand on the right side with your arms crossed over one another, slowly do the above exercise whilst holding your abdominal muscles as you lift your head.

Luckily for me, the week before last I could only fit one finger in my gap in my abs which meant they were okay to start exercising. Of course, I took it super easy last week just to give them a bit more time. I only did my workout video once to 'wake up' my abs and give them a chance to 'activate'. This week, I've done the video every day except one and I'm very proud of myself to make myself do whenever I had a chance with Tia napping or in her swing. I really love the video and think it is a great one for anyone wanting to tone up. It is a post pregnancy workout video, but really you don't have to have had a baby in order for it to work effectively.

Since the 19th of January,I've lost about 6 pounds. I think drinking more water, eating healthier foods, staying away from junk food and exercising has helped greatly. I plan to continue. The only thing I'm allowing myself to do is have a glass of wine here or there. Although, this weekend I'll be having a few cocktails - mmm.

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Nothing on Daytime TV

Thursday, January 28th, 2009 - Day 41

In my life, I have never been a big TV watcher. Besides liking to watch TV while I'm eating, I really have never been tied to any particular shows that I HAVE to watch or that I want taped. When I was growing up, we lived in the country and didn't have cable. I think we had 4 clear channels and 3 fuzzy ones and when my dad had his computers running, they were all fuzzy. We only had a 13 inch TV that we all watched and it was generally whatever my dad was watching; Star Trek, Quantum Leap, and any Sci-Fi shows that were on. When I got into college, I watched whatever my roommates were watching which was a Thursday night ritual of Friends and sometimes Days of Our Lives. After college, I watched The Bachelor with my cousin and that was it, Friends, and Seinfeld. The past few years, I was into Snapped and CSI, but I got tired of those the past few months.

Now that I'm home every day, I've scanned all the channels for what to watch and there really isn't anything that peaks my interest. The first few weeks, I watched all the movies available but they tend to have the same movies on for months. So my routine has become this: News from 5 to 10 (usually get an hour in between feedings, burping, changing and playtime). Then I watch Rachel Ray mainly because it follows the news and it starts before I even realize it. Then because that channel goes back to the news (which I've seen already for the day), I switch to the Price is Right - I do like Drew Carey hosting - I saw him at Mardi Gras one time. Once that is over, I switch over to Wife Swap - seriously just like seeing how 'strange' people are out there. Then after that is over, Desperate Housewives comes on and I watch a few episodes of that. Then it is Grey's Anatomy. None of these shows I really love but it is what is on. Unless I want to watch Court TV, Soaps or infomercials, this has become my routine. I wish some of the shows from the evening were on during the day, but they aren't. Or if Seinfeld or Friends were on, I'd watch re-runs of that. I only have 5 full weeks left, so I guess I should enjoy daytime television while I can.

Luckily, Tia keeps me nice and busy, so I don't have to watch TV the entire time. I do catch her sometimes staring off and I'll realize she is watching TV. I'll tell her, 'you are too young to watch TV young lady' at which time, she'll look at me. She's so adorable!

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Mommy & Tia's Daily Routine

Wednesday, January 27th, 2009 - Day 40

I feed Tia about 5am and then put her back to bed. If she stays down, then I'll go back to bed for a while too, but if she is wide awake and is just not wanting to go back to bed, then it's 'Morning'. And I'll talk to Tia telling her 'good morning' and we chat for a while about things. I'll let her have floor time, which she loves. She just smiles, screams, hoots, hollers, stares, stretches, and has a blast. I'll change her, then she'll either go in her swing for a bit, I'll hold her, or put her in her vibrating bouncer. Then I'll hold her until she looks drowsy and lay her down on her boppy for a snooze or I'll swaddle her and put her back in her crib. From 5am, the day goes pretty similar every 3.5 to 4 hours. While she is in her swing about 9am or 10am, I'll do my workout video and if I can't do the entire 50 minutes, then I'd finish it next time she is in her swing. In the morning, she is the most awake and just enjoys her floor time after eating. Daddy usually calls around lunchtime or texts throughout the day. Sometimes I can get some good video or photos that I send to Daddy so he can see Tia. Tia and I have a great time together! Chris gets home anywhere from 5:30pm to 7:00pm depending on what he has going on and he immediately plays with Tia. I go to bed from 8pm to midnight to get a block of sleep in, just in case she is up all night. I do the graveyard shift feedings - although lately she has been sleeping longer, so I might be able to adjust that a bit. As she sleeps longer - Chris and I both will get more sleep. But I have to say, that she is a great baby and although she has a fussy time here or there - she awesome.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Tia Updates

Tuesday, January 26th, 2009 - Day 39

Tia is doing great! Her baby acne has gone down considerably and is almost gone - yay! Her skin isn't smooth yet, but I can tell it will be soon, back to that smooth baby skin. She has been having regular bowel movements now that she is on Enfamil Fussiness & Gas formula. We were on Soy for a bit, but doc recommended one that would be good for her needs. We have a pretty good schedule down where she'll feed, then have play time for a bit, then nap. When she gets good sleep during the day, she sleeps very well at night. We have started the drops for her clogged tear duct and it is starting to be a bit better...and hope to see better results soon. Her personality is starting to really come out and she is responding with smiles and screams when you talk to her. Every now and then, she'll be fussy, but it is much better than a few weeks ago. I think we are starting to get into a good groove and I only have 5 1/2 weeks left with her and then I'll be back to work. I know I'm going to miss her dearly during the day.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Tia's First Bank Account


Monday, January 25th, 2009 - Day 38

We've had the idea to instill a cuss jar for any swear words that we say, especially when Tia is present. I don't have many occasions where I need to cuss, unless I just threw a bad throw in bowling. However, I can't say that for Chris. Truth be told, there are a few occasions where Chris feels the need to say a few swear words to express his anger. Mainly when a gadget doesn't work, while driving or playing video games...but since Tia's arrival - we both agree we need to curb these habits. So I've created Tia's First Bank Account which is essentially a cuss jar and yes it says 'Tia's First Bank Account - First Bank of Daddy'. We have a jar of quarters all ready to go for Chris and a jar of nickels/dimes for me. This is so we can see who has deposited more into Tia's first account. Each of us will have to put $0.25 into the jar if we swear. Rules will be more defined as time progresses, possibly having to pay more if Tia is present, etc. We'll see, but I love the idea; it goes to a good cause and possibly can rid a bad habit. Tia quite possibly could be rich before she even knows it!

Sunday, January 24, 2010

She Can See

Sunday, January 24th, 2009 - Day 37

For a while, we could tell that she couldn't really see that far, but this week she proved to us that she can definitely see. Chris got her to smile by looking at her and playing with her - it was evident she was looking right at him. Usually, she'll look right past him or stare off in space. She was in her swing and for the first time, she noticed the flowers that hang just above. She was staring at them and Chris and I were amazed she could see that far. Then, Chris had her in her crib the other night with the ceiling lighted up with the cow jumping over the moon. Tia was just staring at it, wide awake in her crib...Chris came back 45 minutes later and she was still staring up at the ceiling in awe. The doctor even confirmed that she was seeing perfectly well. So now when you meet or see her, she'll recognize your faces!

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Full Out Cry

Saturday, January 23rd, 2009 - Day 36

First of all, I hate when Tia is fussy and we don't know what is wrong - I thought that it was the worst feeling in the world. However, this week, we discovered that it can get worse and that is when she has a full out cry. One day I drove out to Chris's work to show Tia off and when I left, it was about feeding time. I was thinking once we started moving in the car, she'd fall asleep and we'd be home before she realized it. Nope...I got onto the highway and traffic was completely stopped - when the car is stopped, Tia starts to cry. But this cry wasn't her normal whines, this cry was a full out someone tore my arm off cry. I got off at the next exit and took my own detour home and eventually had her back to sleep in no time. The very next day, I took her to my work to show her off and by the time I left, it was feeding time again. I was hoping she'd fall fast asleep since it was almost an hour drive home, but I was wrong. She cried for almost the entire trip home. I HATED hearing her cry because it sounded like she was in so much pain and there was nothing I could do about it. I had some formula mix in her diaper bag and I almost got off and stopped into McDonalds for some water but decided I would just bear the cries until I got home. Luckily just before, she fell asleep and I fed her immediately when we walked in.

The next night, she seemed perfectly fine and had a great day with seeing her doctor and playing with us after her feeding, but about 8 o'clock, out of the blue, she started her full out cry again and this time nothing we did could stop her. She just ate, so we knew it wasn't that. We changed her diaper and I was trying to rock her to soothe her but nothing. Chris and I were almost in tears ourselves. We caved and gave her some Gripe Water and she seemed to be soothed for a bit, but for the next few hours she was off and on - fussy, then fine, fussy, then fine...I felt bad for Chris because that was his shift as I was asleep preparing for the graveyard shift. When I fed her in the middle of the night, she started that fussiness again, but I just kept rocking her until she fell back asleep. The next day she had patches of fussiness, but I did my best to never let her get to the point where she was going to have that full out cry again. That just breaks my heart.

We aren't sure why she was crying. She hasn't had a bowel movement in two days and she looks like she struggles trying to. OR we had changed her outfit right when we gave her the gripe water and thought possibly her toe was caught. But whatever the reason, that is one cry that I hate to hear from Tia. It is piercing to the ear and it just sounds like she is in so much pain. We changed her formula to what our Pediatrician recommended and hope that helps. Wouldn't it be great if we could read newborns' minds so we knew what was wrong?!?

Friday, January 22, 2010

Getting My Body Back


Friday, January 22nd, 2009 - Day 35

Because I'm tall, I do wear any extra weight pretty well. But, I know that I'm not my ideal weight and I really haven't been for several years. In the picture attached, I was 10 years younger than I am now and doing lots of modeling. I was a 2-4 and pretty in shape. I hit 28 and things started to gravatate to other areas of my body. I wasn't working out as much and my social drinking didn't help. Once I hit 30, I was 15 pounds heavier than I was in the photo, I couldn't see any abs anymore, and I wore a size 6-8 in clothes. Although, I know I won't get back to the size I am in the picture, the picture gives me hope that I do have some abs down there that can still be uncovered.

I will admit, I've been pretty lazy when it comes to working out. I tend to sign up at gyms and really go hard for a few weeks and then life gets in the way and I start to make excuses to why I don't go as much and eventually - I'm paying a monthly fee, but am not taking advantage. I have been a member of Bally, RiverChase, South City YMCA and Curves and pretty much had the same result. I used to be into working out regularly and I started relying on soccer once or twice a week to fulfill my workouts. I haven't played soccer since I tore my PCL a few years ago and now that I'm going to be 33 later this year, it isn't going to get any easier.

With having a baby, I expected to gain weight but I wasn't sure how quickly I'd be able to lose it after she was born. Pre-pregnancy I weighed 140 give or take (which was still over what I wanted to be) and I weighed almost 180 when I had Tia. I thought I'd get a chance to workout daily with Tia, but that hasn't been the case. She has needed my divided attention and all I've been able to do thus far was to pump my milk makers and check my email. It has been a month and I weighed myself to see where I weighed and I weigh about 160 right now - ouch! I know, I know, it takes time BUT seriously, I really thought I would have been a lot closer to my original weight after a month. No, I haven't done much activity and I know my milk makers weigh a bit BUT I really didn't think I'd weigh 160. I still can't fit into any of my jeans - I've been wearing my maternity pants because they are comfortable and tend to hide my belly.

Sooo, starting this week, I've decided to start a diet and workout regiment. I'm determined to get back to 140 or hopefully 135 and maybe 130 - we'll see ;) My diet started on Monday and I've been drinking lots of water (they say you should drink half your body weight in ounzies daily), so I've been drinking at least 80 ozs of water, which has been pretty easy. No more junk food, fast food, etc. I have been eating a healthy breakfast, healthy lunch and for dinner I can eat a bit more. I snack three times a day at 10:30am, 2:30pm and before bed. The snacks I've approved myself to eat are the following: almonds, hardboiled eggs, string cheese, oatmeal, pickles, yogurt, and other items along those lines. I weighed myself today and I am down to 153, so I'm making some progress. I think most people know I have the worst diet in the world and I've been lucky to have a metabolism that let me eat fatty foods but since I hit 30, my metabolism is just not the same.

Yesterday, I started my workout portion. I've been forcing Tia to like her swing a little bit more each day. She really doesn't like it, but she'll tolerate it for at least 30 minutes at a time. If I'm lucky, she'll fall asleep and I'll have a bit more time as well. I bought The Tracy Anderson Method presents Post-Pregnancy Workout DVD and I really like it. It isn't the hard core aerobic, sweat your balls off video which I typically will drop after one try. It is not easier in any way, but it eases you into each workout technique and although you aren't jumping around the room, you break a sweat. When I was done that first time, my shoulders, triceps, abs and other body parts were already aching - definitely results oriented. If I'm able to get this workout in each morning while Tia is either entertained or taking a nap, I'm going to try. I truly believe that it will get me back in shape if I'm diligent enough to stick with it along with my new diet (by the way, I've never been on a diet before). I'll keep you all posted on how it is going. I appreciate everyone complimenting how I look after having a baby a month ago, but until I get back to at least my original weight - I won't be happy with my body. Especially since we'll be trying to have more kids sooner than later, I want to beat the bulge between!

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Doc Says She's Perfect

Thursday, January 21st, 2009 - Day 34

Tia had her one month appointment today and it went very well. She weights 8 lbs 4 ozs and is 21.5 inches long. She is at the 25% on weight and 65% on height. She diagnosed her rash as being baby acne which is normal and will go away on its own. She prescribed her a drop for her clogged tear duct. Doc said that besides the clogged tear duct and baby acne, she is absolutely perfect.

Of course, Chris and I were prepared with a list of concerns to ask the doc.
(1) Rash - we thought it was heat rash because when she got hot, the bumps grew in number. Doc said that the rash is baby acne and will get worse when she is hot or fussy, which makes sense. She said it is caused by the hormones that come from me in my breast milk. I do hope it goes away soon.
(2) Constipation/Bloating - she said it is normal for bloating and although her belly looks so full and hard, it really is nothing to worry about. She said Tia does not have constipation from what I described and that it is normal for babies to get the red faced, frustrated look on their face as well as going a day or two without a bowel movement.
(3) Thrush - Doc wasn't sure if she had thrush or not but when she scraped on Tia's tongue there was movement so she just has a serious milk stain which is fine.
(4) Feeding Amount - Now that Tia is over 8 lbs, we can move up her dose of milk to 4 ozs. She said to use the formula Body Weight/2=# of ozs because that is how big their stomachs are.
(5) Seems Constipated, but stool is runny - Doc says that means she is not constipated and that a runny stool is what we want to see.
(6) Nasal Congestion - Doc says that it is a normal sound to hear when babies spit up because a bit gets trapped in the throat and makes that sound.-
(7) Belly Button - Her belly button has some 'goo' that we weren't sure if we should clean out or not. Doc says to leave it be and let it work itself out. If you want, you can put alcohol on there, but it is not necessary.
(8) Spitting up/Projectile Vomiting - Doc says these are both very normal for babies and not to worry unless she looks like she is in serious pain after either one.
(9) Pacifier - I was concerned because the pacifier is so big and often she'll sleep with it and I was worried about her rebreathing/SIDS. But Doc said that it is actually great that she sleeps with a pacifier because it is proven that it helps prevent SIDS because they learn to break out of their noses.
(10) Swaddle - We were wondering if we over swaddled her with her nightie, blanket and then the cheater swaddler. Doc said that it is great to over swaddle them because it makes them feel they are warm and they sleep better. She said don't be concerned if she has a bit of sweat around the back of the head or if she seems warm when you unswaddle her - all is normal.

So the conclusion is that everything is normal and that we have the same worries as all parents do. She said that it is great that we have our list of concerns and questions. She said that Tia is beautiful and she looks great! Tia was great too, she didn't even cry - she was alert and intrigued by the whole thing.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Tia's Big Hands

Wednesday, January 20th, 2009 - Day 33

Tia's hands are identical to my hands so it is very obvious she got her hands from me. Her fingers are super long and her hands are unusually large for her body. Pretty much every person who has held her or seen her makes comments about her big hands. Yesterday, we visited Chris's work and many of the ladies were commenting on how she will be a great athlete or musician one day. My friend Lisa made the comment 'I think her hands are as big as mine'.

I find it cute because she'll grow into them just as I have, but if there is one feature on Tia's body that screams 'I got that from mommy', it is her hands. So I guess, you can say, I'm proud. She does have a pretty great grip too and when she holds onto your finger, she won't let go until she is ready. Now her finger nails are another story because she gets those from me too. Mine grow lightening speed and I have to cut them all the time. I will admit they are pretty nails, but I like to keep mine short because they are so hard and tough that when they get too long, it hurts when they bend or break. So although we have cut her nails several times, they are so tough that she has caused a few scratches on her face. I guess we'll have to cut them every day!

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

One Month Old


Tuesday, January 19th, 2009 - Day 32

It feels like it is hard to believe it has been a month already since Tia arrived. Today is her one month old birthday. I really haven't felt like she has changed much until yesterday when I looked at her pictures from the hospital and I really realized how much she has grown in just a month. She definitely has more meat on her bones, a cute little double chin, some hams for thighs and her face has changed a bit. She is still my beautiful little girl and I'm loving every minute of her. I'm sure the next few months will go super fast as well.

I want to take more pictures of her, but she has a bit of a rash right now so I want to wait until that heals before I give her another photo shoot. Everyone says babies get a lot of rashes so that is nice to know that it isn't just Tia. It is a heat rash for sure because when she gets hot, she gets more of the rash and as she cools down, the rash goes away a bit. But I just feel sorry for her because it is all over her neck, chest and face. If someone is hot while holding her, it makes her hot as well and you can see the bumps start to grow. We are trying our best to keep her cool and pray it goes away soon.

I'll probably plan a photo shoot with a professional photographer at her 3 month mark - that will give her time to heal her poor little rash! She's beautiful regardless!

Monday, January 18, 2010

A Car Ride Does Her Good

Monday, January 18th, 2009 - Day 31

It is amazing how car rides are like Prozac for babies...it soothes them and puts them right to sleep. My debit card was making some fraudulent activity buying cell phones to Istanbul, etc. Luckily, my bank notified me and cancelled the card. I ran up to Bank of America to get a new credit card and had to take Tia with me. My Aunt called right when I left the house which was perfect because we could chat for a bit, but when you get two Gulledge's on the phone - often it turns into a very long conversation. I got to the bank, but wasn't done talking to Kina, so I drove past it and got on the highway. A cop was sitting in the parking lot as I passed and I know he saw me drive by. I got off at the next exit and did a loop around all the shopping centers and then got back on the highway again, got off at my home exit and went towards the bank again. The cop saw me again and was probably wondering what I was doing. I didn't want to just park in the lot because I was afraid Tia would wake up, so I just kept driving. I wasn't about to get off the phone yet, because we were getting into some juicy conversation. I realized that I didn't have Tia's pacifier and how if she woke up while I was in the bank, she that would be key, so I drove back home. As I was pulling onto the road that leads to my house, that same cop saw me drive by. Then once I got the pacifier and was driving towards the bank again, Kina and I ended our conversation and this time I would finally end up at the bank. I completed my duties at the bank (the girl that helped me was 8 months pregnant, so we had some good baby talk). I was on my way home and pulling back to my house, that same cop drove by me yet again. This time, the look on his face was like 'what on earth is that girl doing'. I really thought he was going to pull me over and ask what I was up to which would have been fine. But he didn't. But I do believe that the end all to soothing a baby is a little ride in the car!

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Still Reaping the Benefits

Sunday, January 17th, 2009 - Day 30

When I was pregnant, it seemed that everybody was opening the door for me, trying to help me carry my things, worried about me, etc. And I knew that once Tia was born, it would all stop and everything would be about Tia. So I definitely milked it for what it was worth and took advantage if I could. I even used being pregnant as my excuse if I did an airhead thing or tickled Chris and then I'd say 'it was Tia'.

Of course, in the hospital I was treated like royalty and they even had room service, which was nice - the food was great. I knew once we got home, it would be Chris and I fending for ourselves! I do have to say we've had several people bring food when they come visit which is not expected but we definitely enjoy it. Mainly, it has been our moms and who better can cook than your mom. My mom brings her beef noodle soup which is my favorite thing in the world! One of our friends sent us a lovely breakfast basket from Annie Gunns and even brought over pizzas from one of my favorite places. I have a friend coming over today and bringing lasagna - mmmm.

It is crazy how I forget to eat sometimes and I have to fit it in where I can. With Tia, I feed her and then set her down for her floor time. Most of the time, she loves it for at least 15 minutes which gives me time to pump. Around the 5am or 8am feeding, I'll try to get a bowl of cereal in there, then around lunchtime I'll try to eat something quick - but she usually is over floor time by the time I'm done pumping. For dinner, I wait until Chris gets home and then he'll watch her while I cook us a meal. It works and I get to eat at least 3 meals a day. You would think I would have lost more weight though!?!

I went to Walgreens the other day to get her some constipation drops. It was the only item I had in one hand and I had Tia in her pumpkin seat in the other arm. A couple was in front of me who only had a couple items were adamant about letting me go in front of them. I kept saying, no thanks, but the guy was persistant saying I had a baby and one item only. So I went in front of the couple. He said that they have had a baby before and thus know what it is like, etc. He asked how old she was and when I said 3.5 weeks, he said 'wow, you are getting around real good with only having a baby 3 or so weeks ago'. I was a bit shocked by the comment, since I felt like I had been getting around really good since the day of Tia's birth. I guess it made me think about some other ladies who didn't have labor or C-section as easy as I did. I am thankful that I was getting around well! But one thing is for sure, it is still nice to get the royal treatment when baby is here!

Saturday, January 16, 2010

I'm Not Going to Lie

Saturday, January 16th, 2009 - Day 29

I'm not going to lie and say it has been a piece of cake since Tia's arrival. I knew we would have some challenges and adjustments, but words can't begin to describe how much harder it is to be new parents than we expected. I have a great appreciation for every mother out there, especially those with multiple children. Don't get me wrong, I love every minute and I know it goes quickly when they are newborns - there is no greater satisfaction than becoming a mother. We've worked out a great schedule for sleeping so I get a block of 4 to 6 hours from 8pm until 1am/2am, and Chris goes to bed after he feeds her at 11 and sleeps until he gets up for work or if it is the weekend, he'll sleep in later. We do know it gets easier as time goes on and she'll start sleeping more at night as she gets bigger.

I get to spend every day with Tia and she usually has a fussy time for an hour or so a day about the same time - usually some time between 10am and 2pm. We get through it and I know it is either gas or her rash that she has, etc. She's getting better with her swing and not being held every second...and she really enjoys her floor time after feeding. I don't get much done around the house or on the computer during the day as I would like, but I know she needs my attention and care.

The one thing I can say about Tia that makes me melt is when she smiles - it is the sweetest and cutest thing I have ever seen and makes it all worthwhile. She's beautiful and Chris and I call her our little Masterpiece because that is exactly what she is. It is hard to believe that we are parents and she is our creation. I just keep telling myself to cherish every moment right now because every person I've ever talked to about having children say the same thing about their newborn period going super fast. I believe it because 4 weeks ago, I gave her the first real breath of life and the past month has gone by super fast. Some days seemed so long at the time, but went so quickly - if that is possible.

We all have so much control over our every actions and lives, but when you have a newborn often I feel I don't have much control over her needs because I am getting to know her different cries for what she needs. I wish I could read her mind at times, but as I learn what each cry means, I know I become a better mom. Therefore, I truely believe being a parent is one of the hardest and most fulfilling jobs there is and I truely appreciate all the parents out there!